That is SO much easier said than done…I know you are all thinking the same thing. For those of you who don’t know what a 2 week wait is, than I am so envious. But just to fill you in…the 2 week wait is the 2 week period between ovulating and taking that very telling home pregnancy test. For those of you interested in the technical side of the 2 week wait and what our bodies are actually going through check out THIS article. For those of us on a journey to start a family (because we know it is definitely a journey) these 2 weeks can come after much anticipation, testing, medication, and emotional ups and downs and the 2 weeks can come before either the life changing news that you are finally pregnant or the devastation that you need to start this process all over again. Now, dont get me wrong. Much about the “process” that is starting all over again is really exciting and wonderful. Especially if you have a really handsome husband like mine 🙂 But the process to get to that point is tiring and draining. This infertility testing and treatment process has been the biggest test on my resolve and sanity and the most emotionally charged time in my life. So ladies, how do we keep ourselves sane during these 2 weeks? Here are a few things that have helped me…
Sometimes just writing down your feelings is so cathartic. Heck, why dont you start a blog?! That’s how I am here today writing about this. My journey was bizarrely isolating and although I have wonderful friends and family to discuss with, I sometimes felt like I was harping on the negatives so I wanted my own platform where I could connect with people going through a similar journey and also so I could just speak what was on my mind. Sometimes, people JUST dont know what to say. And I dont blame them because I dont really know what to say either sometimes, but I did think this article was really helpful for anyone personally dealing with infertility or is supporting someone who is dealing with infertility. 25 things to say (and not to say) to someone living with infertility
NO SYMPTOM SPOTTING
Symptom spotting is a way to add to your anxiety, not reduce it. And we all know relaxing and staying calm when trying to get pregnant are important! Many people will research every twinge, cramp, symptom to an overzealous fault. Unfortunately, many early pregnancy symptoms are the same as PMS symptoms and also symptoms from medications that many TTC would be taking, including progesterone. So you can never know if that cramp means your pregnant, or if your sore boobs just mean that ugly aunt flo is in town, so save yourself the frustration and just try and relax as much as you can.
WATCH WHAT YOU EAT AND DRINK
There are the most known DONT’S during any pregnancy including alcohol, caffeine, soft cheeses, and lunch meat but there are also some foods and drinks that have been known to help the implantation process including Brazil nuts because they contain selenium which helps to thicken the lining. Other foods to try and rotate into your diet during the 2ww are pineapple and other citrus fruits and juice, protein, fresh vegetables, and warm soups and warming foods.
Get yourself a mani & pedi, go shopping and get a cute outfit for a date night out, and just relax and enjoy yourself. I know I have to remind myself everyday that there is a life outside of trying to have a baby and that all of my worry cannot consume me everyday. I try to keep myself as busy as possible and really focus on enjoying everyday.
REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE
I know this one isnt the most helpful when you are in the moment, peeing on a stick, and praying for a happy result, but if that doenst happen, remember, you are NOT alone. There are many women battling the same journey as you. Reach out to these women. Talk about what you are going through. I felt so alone for so long but I have forced myself to be open about our struggles and its amazing how many women have similar stories. My favorites are those that had similar struggles and now have a beautiful family filled with children and love. There is always a silver lining. There is always hope! Keep that alive.
And you are definitely not alone if you are reading this blog, because right now I have right smack in the middle of my 2 week wait. I really hope that there is good news for my hubby and I on the other end of this, but if not, next month is another try and I am trying my absolute darndest to be more positive than I have been in the past few months! This is an exciting journey and as hard and trying as it is, it is all so worth it to hopefully one day hold that baby in my arms and say “look at my family.”